Calling Out The Queen

Jennifer McDaniel - September 09, 2020
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The idea of “Being a Queen” is the new messaging in the woman’s empowerment movement for women of color. 

The Queen is a divine feminine archetype that allows a woman to present her highest and best version of self to the world. An archetype consists of psychological and emotional qualities of thought and behavior. According to most Jungian psychologists, there are seven feminine archetypes that prevail in contemporary society—the mother, the maiden, the queen, the huntress, the wise woman, the mystic and the lover. The presence of these archetypes in our psyches account for the major differences among women in the various stages of development and maturity. 

As women we are always in search of meaning for our lives. Every season in our lives presents to us a mix of fulfillment and problems- of joy and pain; that helps to mold us into the woman that we are designed to be.  When you start to take the necessary time to reflect on how you want to present your version of yourself to the world and more importantly; how you want people to receive you, the Queen is activated.

The Queen’s existence is far above the normal, transcends the mundane, and exudes a royal presence at all times. She is influential and powerful in a uniquely feminine way. This archetypal energy is laced with tenacity and purpose in everything that she does because she understands her “why”.  She has the ability to give power to others, without losing her own innate power. She has the ability to bring people together for a greater purpose and most importantly, she has the enormous ability to receive.

There comes a moment in every woman’s life where she must call on her queen

There comes a time when she must put on her crown and take control of her realm. Her inner realm is her mental, emotional and spiritual energy. Her outer Realm is the people that she has a direct influence over, her King, her children and other people that matter most to her.  


The Queen in her profound wisdom understands that the realm that requires her full attention is her own inner realm; because this is how she is able to influence her outer realm.


In contrast to the Mother, who focuses on what other people need (at times from a place of co-dependency), the Queen is always paying attention to the future quality of life for her realms. We call this her “vision” for her life. It is very important for a woman to define her vision in her realms. If she doesn’t, she will attempt to give her greatness to everyone in her path and become exhausted.

We all want and need to call on our Queen. The challenge is that many women don’t understand how to access and effectively use their Queen energy. When our minds are confused and our hearts are closed, we become “disembodied” and we constrict. Confusion causes confinement and causes us to become stuck in old stories and made up narratives that no don’t serve us. Accessing the Queen requires clarity. Clarity in vision, clarity in though and clarity in action.

The Queen energy is blocked when we give away our power. Giving away our power robs us of mental strength and derails us from our potential and sabotages our chances of success.


As long as we allow other people to influence the way we think, feel, and behave, we will continue to feel powerless. As long as we react to life instead of respond to life, we will continue to feel powerless and continue to shrink. The Queen energy is rooted in expansion.


Calling on the Queen requires us to love our self as we are, where we are…right now. It requires radical self-love.


Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve.

Self-love is one of these concepts that you can’t logically understand. We can say that we love our self and behave in unhealthy ways that completely contradict how we say we feel about ourselves.  You know when you are loving yourself and you know when you’re not. The first step in getting free is acting from a place of radical self-love. When we allow the Queen to present herself, we are tapping into radical self -love.

When we are able to consciously able manifest the Queen energy into our daily life we thrive and everyone in our kingdom thrives too. You have to nurture this Queen energy so that when you call her, she can support you.





Define the vision for your two realms- What do you need to focus on mentally, emotionally or spiritually so that you can increase your well-being in your inner realm? Who are the people that are the most important? How do you want to contribute to their lives? What kind of influence do you want to have on your outer realm? What is you level of devotion to them?


Start showing up for yourself- You need you! When you show up for yourself, you are intentional about your growth and healing. You are on your team. A self-loving person attends to her physical, relational, social, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual needs. Notice where you are fully present and self-supportive in your life and where you are not. Explore whether you recreate patterns that show up and either serve or sabotage your happiness and progress. Positively reinforce yourself in healthy ways as you enjoy the natural rewards of showing up for yourself. Most importantly, forgive yourself when you haven’t had the right amount and kind of energy to show up for yourself.


Stop doing and start being- This requires less work less and more rest.  You can’t bring forth the Queen energy when you are tapped out and exhausted. It’s impossible. The most crucial aspect of our femininity is the ability to recharge and rejuvenate ourselves. As women we are taught to believe that we have to always be “doing” something to be of value. We want to feel less anxious, less depression, less stressed, so we go into over drive stuck in the mindset that the more you accomplish, the happier we will be. This is a lie. If we value ourselves only for what we do, we are imprisoned in a never-ending cycle of unhappiness.


Develop your ability to receive- Receiving is the ability to receive everything that is there. It’s both the positive and the not so positive, including everything you so long for but do not get. One of the most important aspects of receiving is simply noticing the details of the gift. Whether it’s an object of affection, a hug, a meal, a compliment or an attack on your character…notice the details and how you receive it. Notice how it makes you feel and how it contributes to your life and how you experience changes because of it. To be able to receive, you have to stay open. A Queen’s power is rooted in openness. When a woman shuts down, her heart closes When our hearts are closed, we cannot express our full potential, and, therefore, we limit what we allow into our lives and we simply cannot receive what has been established for us and only us.

There is a Queen that lives inside you. You may already know her well, be in the beginning stages of getting to know her or not know her at all.  Regardless of where you are in the process of calling out your Queen, know that she longs to be in relationship with you. She longs to come forth to build you up and support you. So, speak to her, nurture her, love on her.  Because she needs you and you need you.

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Jennifer McDaniel

Jennifer McDaniel is a well being strategist, ICF accredited professional coach. She has 25+ years of experience as a professional speaker, corporate trainer and a learning development leader in the beauty, health and wellness space.

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