Redefining Self-Worth

Jennifer McDaniel - June 09, 2021
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I'm seeing "self" words popping up everywhere. Self-esteem, self-compassion, self acceptance, self-respect, self-confidence, self-love, self-care, self-worth..and so on.  

All of these words reflect feelings about how we think about ourselves and how we act towards ourselves. Every relationship that we have with everyone else demonstrates the relationship that we're having with ourselves. When I look at that list, I think the most crucial concept to remember is the concept of self-worth.  Having self-worth means that you value yourself. But self-worth is more than an emotion; it's a behavior. It's a practice. Self-worth stems from self-acceptance. In the world of doing, this form of acceptance is often expressed through achievement.  

As a woman of color, I have worked hard to achieve certain milestones in my life. And for years, as I made more money and acquired more things, it looked like I was winning.  

But on the inside, I felt like I was losing. I didn't feel good enough. I didn't feel like I was lining up with my ability, effort, and performance. This was because  my sense of my self-worth was misaligned and rooted in the masculine way of living. 

I was caught up in the masculine energy of doing. I had convinced myself that the busier I was, the more I put on my plate, the more I stretched myself, the more available I was to everyone made me more valuable.  

That is the lie. 

When a woman is operating out of her natural feminine nature and focuses on doing and competing, it diminishes her self-worth. She will exhaust herself emotionally, physically, and mentally. Her feminine energy will be out of the flow.  

The truth is that our self-worth is given , not earned. Our value is not in doing. It is in being. 

As women, when we operate from our natural feminine, we have the power to receive, amplify, and give in overflow. 

And when a woman learns to live in overflow, in her fullness and wholeness, her definition of self- worth becomes crystal clear. 📷
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Jennifer McDaniel

Jennifer McDaniel is a well being strategist, ICF accredited professional coach. She has 25+ years of experience as a professional speaker, corporate trainer and a learning development leader in the beauty, health and wellness space.

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