Recommitting To Real Connection

yaneth acosta - July 09, 2020
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A soul connection is when two people feel they are linked on a soul level in a significant or extraordinary way.  When you meet this person, you (and your life) transform on a profound level. As you begin to bond with this person you begin to understand that there's something about you that will never be the same.  You have a deep and natural affinity, intimacy, and spirituality with your soulmate. For many of us the soulmate connection is so strong that we can’t find the words to describe how we feel.   


Our relationship with our spouse is one of the deepest emotional soul connections we will ever experience


Most of our connections with other people in our lives are not that deep, even if they may appear to be.  For example, we may love our siblings and parents but still not necessarily be bonded at the level of the soul.

I use to think that my kids took priority in having a soul connection.  Are they not the ones who need me the most?  Someone once confessed to me that when you have a child, from that day onward, your heart is going to be walking around in someone else’s body. I completely understand that, but what happens when we allow our kids soul connection to take precedence over our husbands?  It may all work out in the short run, but in the long run, we will end up with many regrets. Connection is broken, significance fades away and hearts begins to wander and wonder.


All of us walk into a marriage with a strong connection with our spouse but some of us have challenges maintaining that connection and developing it into a “soul connection”


I was the one that struggled to maintain that deep connection that we once had.  I wanted that soul connection to be at the heart of our relationship, but at the time I didn’t have the tools to make that desire manifest in our relationship.

After many years of craving this level of connection, I decided to re-commit to my marriage. I realize that for my marriage to change, I needed to change my heart condition. I needed to let go of some things that no longer served the woman and wife that I wanted to be.  After twenty-one years of marriage, my husband and I have both learned to surrender to our expectations and to stay committed to our soul connection. 


How does soul connection take center stage after many years of living and not feeling the profound connection?


I realized that I first had to let go of my little list of “improvements” for him to improve upon.  What I needed to do was to accept him as he is so that I could seize every day as another opportunity to take our connection to the next level.

But habits and patterns can be hard to break. Many times, I was so mentally and emotionally tired that it seems like a lot effort to do anything more to grow our connection.  

For example, I remember a time when I would be washing the dinner dishes and I noticed that my honey has just sat down in a comfy chair. He’s sitting down, and I’m still cleaning up the kitchen. I became instantly annoyed because I felt that my day was longer and so was my to do list.  Now, I know that my honey wanted nothing more at that time than to relax with an ice-cold beer, but the last thing on my mind was getting him that beer. That was my block. I had the opportunity to do an act of love for my husband, but I missed the opportunity to serve him, bond with him and grow our connection.

There are many opportunities that we can take advantages of to build a deeper connecting with our spouse.  Below is a list of actions that helped me transform my deepest relationship. 


  1. The gift of respect- Dr. Emerson Eggerich has written a book about the love women most desire and the respect that men desperately need. He challenges women not to love their husbands unconditionally, but to respect them unconditionally.
  2. Provide acts of physical touch- this will let them know you love them and are happy to see them.
  3. Show gratitude towards them-let them know that you see how much they do and that you are grateful for them.
  4. Connect on a spiritual plane- Pray together and support each other’s core values.
  5. How We Love / Workbook by Milan & Kay Yerkovich – I always suggest this workbook to all my friends, that are looking to strength their connection in their marriage. 


So, the question is, are you ready to let go? If your answer is yes, then get ready to watch your connection develop into a soul connection and watch your marriage transform.

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Yaneth Acosta

Yaneth has brought over 20+ years in the professional beauty industry by developing new business initiatives in the esthetics and wellness industry.

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